When preparing for the Café Psychologique, I discovered it was national sibling day on 10 April – well in the USA anyway. I found myself overwhelmed by quotes from my Google search – in the same way as I was overwhelmed by the breadth and depth of the discussion at the Café Psychologique on 14 April. The intensity and openness with which people shared their experiences was both moving and amazing.
We thought about sibling rivalry and competition, what it was like to be an older or younger sibling, what the gaps in ages or lack of gaps were like, status within the family, feeling distant, feeling close, feeling too close! We all wondered what it was like to be an only child as – interestingly -everyone attending had siblings.
you say one thing and it all kicks off!
We were an intimate number of people (16 of us), but we never seemed short of a tale to tell. I was moved, delighted, and intrigued by the discussion at the Café and didn’t want it to end. I was thanked for introducing the topic with a lovely bottle of wine and while writing this thought about how the evening seemed to have a momentum that I have often experienced while with my siblings, but on this occasion in a good way!
Here are some quotes I found but didn’t have time to share. There is plenty more to discuss… for conversation at another Café perhaps?
“Our siblings. They resemble us just enough to make all their differences confusing, and no matter what we choose to make of this, we are cast in relation to them our whole lives long.” (Susan Scarf Merrell)
“Mom loved my brother more. Not that she didn’t love me – I felt the wash of her love every day, pouring over me, but it was a different kind, siphoned from a different, and tamer, body of water. I was her darling daughter: Joseph was her it.” (Aimee Bender, The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake)
“Sometime being a brother is even better than being a superhero.” (Marc Brown)